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Two lines

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There are always two lines. The one that got us here, and the one that will take us further ahead.

We tend to think less about the former and more about the latter. The future is always front and center: it’s the place of dreams, of ambitions, of possibilities. But it is also the place where something is always missing, as nobody looks at tomorrow saying: I want it to be just like today.

Being able to appreciate the past, to grasp the progress, to find the foundations, is just as important as having a strong purpose. It actually helps to shape a more solid purpose.

The two lines are not in competition, you don’t have to choose one over the other.

You have to find the right balance.

Celebrate failure

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Celebrate even when you fail.

Even when you end up fourth, and only the first three get a medal.

Write a story that makes you a winner.

Think of a way to elevate your performance.

Build the stepping stone for your future success.

Adam Ondra, 4th place in Speed Climbing @Tokyo Olympics
(Photo: Jess Talley, Jon Glassberg/Louder Than 11)

Faulty comparison

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How do you feel about those trying to succeed where you have failed?

It is natural to approach this with negativity. Certainly, someone achieving what you could not achieve will mean you are not good enough. It will put a spotlight on your shortfall. It will make others think less of you. It will make way for negative comments. It will preclude future opportunities.

That’s not so. And you are better off if you not measure your worth by comparison with others.

Think instead: how can I help them, so that they will not make the same mistakes I have made?

And: what can I learn from their process, so that I will be more ready next time?

Shared

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You do not have to manage change to make it happen.

You can still make a decision and expect everyone to act accordingly.

You can drift through the days and wait for something to come your way.

You can stand on the side and take credit for whatever success will come.

You do not have to manage change, but when you manage change you make it a shared experience. A shared decision, a shared opportunity, a shared outcome. It is only by managing change that you can make a long-term impact.

Humane

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If presented with the possibility, would you share the highest reward with your fiercest competitor? Would you be fine with going down in history together with them? Or would you just try a bit harder, a bit further, to be the only winner?

Too often we see competition as a zero-sum game, a clear winner and loser is a must. But what occurred in the high jump points to something far greater. As we outlined in Peak Performance*, if we can put our ego aside, we actually free ourselves up to perform to our best ability. Our ego often pushes us to perform out of a place of fear, of needing to show the world that I’m good enough. When we can let go of that noise, and realize that competition is about getting the most out of ourselves, we can fulfill our potential.

Brad Stulberg, Competing with instead of always against

* My notes on Peak Performance.