Connect the dots

Are the numbers you track the numbers that matter? Do they tell the story of a success, of your success, or of someone else’s success?

These days, measuring is very easy. You can track basically every progress, every little step, every achievement, every moment. But are those the numbers that take you in the direction you have chosen?

Sometimes we celebrate because we feel we are connecting the dots, but the final image was drawn by somebody else. Be mindful if that is the case.

Out to get you

Sometimes it does feel like the whole world is out to get you.

Negative things pile up and you just don’t seem you can find the additional energy to fight back.

Then, don’t fight back.

Let it be, soon something positive will start showing up in your life. Even better, move the target, be the one to put good into the world, and immediately the negative streak will dissolve.

It’s never so bad that you can’t do some good.

Goodwill

Somebody complimenting someone else is not taking anything away from you.

There’s enough goodwill in the world for everyone, it’s not a finite resource.

Somebody complimenting someone else is additive and should not be bothering you.

A viable option

When you are tired of an exchange – with a colleague, your partner, a friend, your kid – it’s ok to be the one stopping it.

We always want to win, but sometimes, oftentimes, sending the ball back to the opposite side of the court is just not worth it. Grab the ball, say that you are sorry, and move on.

Almost nothing in life is a battle with winners and losers. Renouncing is a viable option.

Not imperative

It’s not imperative that you are involved in everything.

It’s not imperative that you understand everything.

It’s not imperative that you check everything.

It’s not imperative that you fix everything.

It’s not imperative that you control everything.

It’s not imperative that you point out the flaws and defects in everything.

It’s not imperative that you vet everything before it gets out.

Once you understand this, you will be surprised by how things still happen, with good results, without you being there to take credit.

It’s empowering.

It’s liberating.