Lessons

You can find great lessons everywhere, even in books you are just reading for pleasure and enjoyment.

“There is satisfaction,” he said to Dalinar, “in creating a list of things you can actually accomplish, then removing them one at a time. As I said, a simple joy.”

“Unfortunately, I’m needed for bigger things than shopping.”

“Isn’t that always the problem? Tell me, my friend. You talk about your burdens and the difficulty of the decision. What is the cost of a principle?”

“The cost? There shouldn’t be a cost to being principled.”

“Oh? […] Isn’t a principle about what you give up, not what you gain?”

“So it’s all negative?” Dalinar said. “Are you implying that nobody should have principles, because there’s no benefit to them?”

“Hardly,” Nohadon said. “But maybe you shouldn’t be looking for life to be easier because you choose to do something that is right! Personally, I think life is fair. It’s merely that often, you can’t immediately see what balances it.”

Brandon Sanderson, Oathbringer

A selfish act

There’s plenty of leaders out there these days delivering bad news. And if there’s one thing they should avoid when the time comes, is trying to frame it in a positive light. Particularly if they do not give space to the receiver to digest it all and get there themselves.

Sure, laying employees off can help caring for kids who are forced to stay home, give people the time to take that training, and dedicate hours to the hobby they have neglected.

But if you, as a leader, suggest that, you are merely trying to make it easier for you to deliver the news. It is a selfish act, one that is not needed.

Practical and emotional

Take care of what is practical. Ensure there’s food on your table, there’s cash in your bank, there’s future for your business, there’s a salary for your employees and a product for your customers.

And take care of what is emotional too. Ask how people around you are, support them with kindness, help them address their needs, be there for them often and completely.

It is your responsibility as a leader to make space for both practical and emotional. If practical takes all of your time, you are doing it wrong.

Inexpensive

People around you most likely do not care about your role, your salary, the amount of money in your bank account, how many square metres your house is, in which neighbourhood you live, the cost of the suit you wear or of the car you drive.

What matters to most, instead, is presence, love, attention, affection, care. All things that are inexpensive and available to everyone. Their value is immense.

Tough job

Two things about leadership I got reminded about in the past week.

First, if you want to start a conversation on a challenging problem, do not put your idea forward. Not in the beginning, not in the middle, not at the end. Sit down and listen instead, and see if some elements of your idea can support somebody else’s idea.

Second, if somebody comes to you with a question, a problem, something to share, listen to them. Saying that you are busy, that it’s not important, that you don’t care (right now) is equivalent to breaking the relationship. If you really cannot listen now, apologise and go back to it later. It will be worth it.

Leadership is tough job. Hope you are getting the support you need.