Not up to the task

So many of us do not feel up to the task. It’s a feeling that makes us shy away from achieving more, that makes us hide and retreat, that eventually feeds into a demotivating spiral from which it is difficult to escape.

But what is the task?

When we say we do not feel up to the task, we often refer to something ideal, some perfect outcome that we never really define. We imagine ourselves being in a position where we have everything under control, where we know everything, and where we can answer every question without fault and self-doubt.

The task is not that. Nobody in their sane mind would ask you to be up to that task.

The task is showing up and figuring it out as you go. Living and dealing with that kind of uncertainty and with that level of ignorance, while still being kind to others and willing to bring them along the way with you. Perhaps learning something from them and teaching them something.

It’s not an easy task, but it can be concrete and it is achievable.

So, if you feel like you are not up to the task, start by asking yourself what the task is. You might be relieved from a big stress.

Flat

A flat organization is an opportunity for employees to speak freely, to share their opinion, to make an impact.

A flat organization is not an excuse for managers to make jokes about employees, say whatever comes to their mind, pretend they are not in charge.

It’s a thin distinction, one that is good to remember often.

Magic

Have you ever waited for your turn to speak – and I mean truly waiting, not forming-the-next sentence-in-your-mind-while-waiting-for-the-other-to-slip waiting?

Have you ever given others the time to express themselves the way they want before correcting their annoying behaviour?

Have you ever wanted for others, sincerely, something you also wanted for yourself? Have you tried to help them achieve that rather than cutting their chances with petty complaints?

Have you ever just asked a question without immediately anticipating the answer?

If you have, you know it’s magic. And it’s just what the world needs more of.

Perspective

There’s not much you can do if others think poorly of you, don’t invite you out, avoid spending time with you, talk behind your back, badmouth you.

What you can do though is change the way you think of you and others.

That will shift the perspective and put the initial problem completely out of your mind.

Little and difficult

It’s incredible how little people need.

Attention.

Care.

Support.

It’s equally incredible how difficult it is to give that to them. Unconditionally.