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You assume

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When you start thinking that someone is out to get you, that the decisions they are making are personal and against you, you are making a lot of self-centred assumptions in a split second.

You assume that they know of you.

You assume that they know what is good and bad for you.

You assume that they think of you when making their own decisions.

You assume that they understand the depths of your value and skills.

You assume that they prioritise your circumstances over theirs.

You assume that they care enough to actually bother.

You assume that they are the villain to your own personal script.

Of course, some of these assumptions might be on target. But even just making them, even though you do not know you are making them, consumes a lot of your energy and resources.

Assume instead that they are doing their best for themselves and for the interests they represent.

It almost never is personal. And even when it is, you are far better off assuming it is not.

In event of crisis

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If your company wants to write a public note about the current situation in Ukraine – or any other crisis for what matters -, make sure that falls into one of those two categories.

  • You are letting your audience know about something deeply impactful you are doing, or plan to do, that could change the situation for the better for a good portion of the people involved.
  • You are directing the attention of your audience towards someone or some other organisations that can actually do something deeply impactful and might need additional support.

And always remember, even at a time like this, silence is an option.

Stay strong.

A second chance

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Rejection calls for reflection.

Was it the right opportunity, the right time, the right audience? What could be improved in the way my ideas, my plan, my experience is introduced? What will I do next to make sure next time I can progress towards the goal?

What rejection does not need is forcefulness – I will do it my way – and surrender – I will give up.

Rejection is a second chance.

More time, less time

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Some people will like you, some people will not like you, and most people will be somewhere in the middle.

Your responsibility is not to change where people stand.

Your responsibility is to spend more time with people that, for the most part, like you and less time with people that, for the most part, do not like you.

You’ll feel better. And they will feel better too.

Current

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It’s ok to be cheerful even when not everything is going well. It’s ok to be down even when most things seem to be perfect.

We need to be able to recognise that life is made of a multitude of pieces. The one that is in front of us right now is what determines our current mood. And fortunately there is much more for us to appreciate, at any given time.