What is the thing you want to absolutely achieve? Tomorrow, this week, this month, this year.
What is it that you need to do to make it happen? Make a list.
Go through the list, one point at a time, and do not shift your focus until the list is done. Do rest, relax, take breaks. Particularly if the list is long. But do not invest energy, time, and meaningful work on a new shiny object.
Once you are done, reassess and celebrate the work you have done.
That’s it.
Celebrate even when you fail.
Even when you end up fourth, and only the first three get a medal.
Write a story that makes you a winner.
Think of a way to elevate your performance.
Build the stepping stone for your future success.
Sometimes a situation just turns out to have the worst possible outcome, and you could have told from the beginning.
You had spotted the discomfort in approaching it, the signals, the opposition of others. You had noticed that nothing was going the way it was supposed to. You had called it difficult, wrong, impossible. You had said many times you were giving it your best, and despite that, you could not see any improvement. You had wanted to quit and give up, in different occasions, and yet stayed in it until the very, inevitable, tragic ending.
This is self-sabotaging.
You do not have to manage change to make it happen.
You can still make a decision and expect everyone to act accordingly.
You can drift through the days and wait for something to come your way.
You can stand on the side and take credit for whatever success will come.
You do not have to manage change, but when you manage change you make it a shared experience. A shared decision, a shared opportunity, a shared outcome. It is only by managing change that you can make a long-term impact.
Saying no is a sign of commitment.
When you know that what you are doing matters, you want to dedicate to it as much time and energy as possible. And you can only do that if you have developed the capacity to resist alternatives, to refuse help, to reject opportunities.
Saying no is saying you are on the right path.
You've got this 