Eventually, you will have to make peace with the version of yourself you will never be.
With your childhood dreams. With what your family wanted for you. With what you never liked and got inculcated with anyway simply because you were born there. With what has changed and will not come back.
It’s a huge challenge, probably one of the biggest one you’ll face.
What you are not, you simply are not.
If someone would look at you now, what would they see?
If they would check on you while you are working, relaxing, exercising, parenting, leading, what feeling would they be left with?
If they would have a chance to take a peek at you when no one else is watching, what would they learn?
This is the compassionate responsibility to try and be your better self at all times, it is not the merciless burden that makes you give up.
And it does matter.
Most of what we do goes unnoticed.
Good and bad not always get rewarded or sanctioned as we are used to see in novels and movies. And we are often alone dealing with what follows.
Not only we are main characters to our own movie, we are also the sole interested audience.
Can you accept that?
Start from small.
A little thing that bothers you just a little. Something you want to change. Something you want to try. Something that’s been on your mind for a while.
We often fail because we want to get to the end result right from the start.
We go on a diet, and we want the body we desire on week 1.
We start a blog, and we want an audience from day 1.
We land a new job, and we want to love it already on the first month.
We found a new company, and all we think about is to make it a unicorn.
Start from small instead. Break the big achievement down into small, if you need.
Small is your buddy.
Understand that it is normal to want to make things complex.
To want to add just one more feature. To want to make a clause for that particular case. To want to split the price to make it more flexible. To want to tell exactly how it works. To want to cover all the needs of all possible audiences. To want to factor in all the preferences of all possible stakeholders.
Understand that it is normal to want all of this.
And understand also that customers want simple. You yourself want simple when you are the customer.
Complexity is natural. It is also not what is going to make your business grow.