Sometimes we mistake what we cannot do with what we do not want to do. For example, we might say we do not want to jump in the water or dance or give that presentation in front of the whole team, while what we actually mean is we do not (yet) know how to do … Continue reading Do not want and cannot
Not succeeding does not necessarily mean failing. Not being right does not necessarily mean being wrong. Not being good does not necessarily mean being bad. Not agreeing with something does not necessarily mean opposing it. We use categories to make sense of the world, yet categories are not dichotomies. If anything, their meaning is much … Continue reading Contradictions and implications
We are not in search of perfection, and yet we demand ourselves to produce perfection. The expectations we put on our work are often way higher than those our audience has. This happens in part because we often idealize our audience - and here's a reminder of how important it is to truly get to … Continue reading Far-from-perfect
The fourth blog post. The second month in an important project. The tenth episode of your podcast. The sixth year in your wedding. The eleventh year of being a parent. The fifth exam at the university. The twentieth cover letter you customise. The third year in your job. That's where the real challenge lies. Getting … Continue reading Real challenges
What habits do you know you would stick to no matter what? Developing habits takes time and dedication, and yet once the habit becomes such, it's the most solid thing to fall back upon in times of need. It is worth the effort.
Most of our time is spent thinking about what was, what could have been, what will be. As our days go by, we are rarely in the moment. Doing. Feeling. Breathing. This increases our sense of dissatisfaction and incompleteness. Bit after bit, we grow more unhappy. Meditation is not a practice to become better or … Continue reading Reliable narrator
The outcome of the things you do is heavily determined by your motivation and by your method. Motivation is what gives you the reason why, what makes you feel all ecstatic, what gives you the kick to get started. Motivation is powerful yet fragile, and very often it is dependent on the feedback we get … Continue reading Motivation and method