Tag: self-improvement

What is keeping you?

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That thing that’s keeping you from delivering on your promise – to yourself or to someone else. Is that an excuse or a reason?

People – ourselves included – have little tolerance for excuses. If we keep repeating them over and over again, they do not become more acceptable. They simply make the relationship more difficult.

Understand the difference and take a stand.

Fun fact: we tend to hide excuses, burying them inside long monologues or beyond a volatile interpretation of data. Reasons, on the other end, emerge whenever we need to strengthen a connection.

Creatures of inputs

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You need to deploy a lot of strength to get rid of bad habits.

If you check your phone every five minutes, that’s a feeling of continuos anticipation of what you might learn.

If you read work emails in the evenings, that’s a feeling of commitment and importance and busyness.

If you eat a sweet snack four or five times a day, that’s a feeling of satisfaction and fullness.

Of course, tha aftermath of a bad habit is never as good as the moment that leads to it. But we are creatures of inputs, not creatures of outputs. We care about what comes before – the thoughts, the wondering, the emotions.

That’s why you need strength to get rid of a bad habit. Start with the phone, the emails, the snack, whatever you know will lead you there.

Half measures do not work in this case.

Still worth it

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Sure, there’s plenty of content online.

No need to remember anything, because everything is just a search away.

You can, with some intent and dedication, do a decent job at most things.

And I anyway believe that enrolling in a course and earning a certificate is still worth it. At least, for what really matters. For what can get you closer to your purpose.

If for no other reason, for the people you get to know that are going through a similar journey, willing to share what they are trying and you have not yet thought about.

Master of time

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I don’t have time for this.

It sounds a lot better when you say instead.

I have made a decision not to invest time in this.

That is a more honest thing to say. It also shows awareness and determination. It denotes you are in control of how you spend your day and it holds you responsible for the things your are not doing.

Time is not an entity we can control. What we do with it, instead, is something we can learn to master.

Every day

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If you want kindness, be kinder.

If you want gratefulness, be grateful.

If you want support, give support.

If you want transparency and openness, be transparent and open.

If you want candour, be candid.

If you want honesty, be honest.

If you want trust, give trust.

Our environment is a reflection of how we behave, and we have the immense power to influence it.

Every day.