Tag: self-improvement

Without judgement

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In most things we see presage, meaning, intention. That’s our way to try and control the chaos of life.

But just because our child is slow eating their lunch, it doesn’t mean they will be slow at everything as they grow up.

Just because someone has not answered our call for help, it doesn’t mean they don’t care.

Just because we have not been awarded that important role, it doesn’t mean we are less worthy of consideration.

More often then not, things merely happen. We should be brave enough to accept that without judgement and move on.

Reality is in the middle

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Two sure ways to get stuck.

  1. Blaming it all on the others.
  2. Blaming it all on yourself.

Reality is always somewhere in the middle. The only way to move forward to find the new beginning is to acknowledge that others are not out to get you, and that you are not that bad after all.

There’s always a way.

Reflection and learning

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Every ending is a new beginning.

But of course, we need to be able to appreciate the ending. To grieve. To be mad, frustrated, disappointed, sad. To stay with the negative for some time and let others know that we suffer because of the ending.

Then, we can start thinking about what “new” looks like. Because often, continuing on the same path, going back exactly where the ending broke the path, is not the best way to look for a beginning.

Every ending is a new beginning.

Let’s not use that anymore as a band aid on top of a wound, but as a process of reflection and learning.

The wrong thing

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We all feel fear.

Fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of not being useful enough, fear of being let go, fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, fear of no progress, fear of judgement, fear of failure. And probably, a thousand other fears.

We all feel that. We do.

And the problem is when that fear begins to drive action.

Failing to disclose something important during the hiring process because we might get rejected.

Telling a seemingly unimportant lie to ensure we can hide for a little longer.

Putting others down to allow our work to shine.

Turning a blind eye on a detail so that we can continue uncontested.

There is nothing more natural than fear. Embrace it rather than reject it. And make sure that, despite the fear, you will still do the right thing.

The effect of time

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Healing takes time.

You won’t probably feel much better after a pill, a visit to the doctor, a massage, a session with a therapist. But with time, those things will have an effect.

You have to give healing time. Even when it seems like you don’t have any.