Tag: self-improvement

Eventually

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That moment you spend doing something that someone else wants you to do, and that you absolutely hate. That moment when you despise yourself, blame the other, feel like there’s no point, find faults in everything. That same moment you get angry, furious, mad, and then sad, depressed, disillusioned.

It’s just not worth it, isn’t it?

And to be clear, that does not mean “follow your passion and do what you like“.

It means find what you like and be brave enough to stick with it.

No matter what others want or say.

They too will thank you, eventually.

Three burdens

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The first is that you have to be liked. Doing something to please others is the reason why your work sucks and the very same idea that everyone could or should like you is most likely the reason why you are stuck.

The second is that success is measurable with money. It’s a very expensive fairytale and for a very large part of us it is also an excuse to never look at what matters.

The third is that commitment is forever. Very few are, and even when you have invested a lot in something, it is still fair to get to a point where you say: “thank you, I am out”.

Can you free yourself of these burdens?

Start from here and now

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Is there more?

Most definitely, there is.

But that’s the wrong question to ask, it’s a question that hides permanent dissatisfaction.

Try instead, what do I have here and now?

When you start from your current situation and accept the tools and means that you have been given, the possibility for more are truly infinite.

Different hows

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When we look at others we look at how they behave, how they look, how they interact with others. We often know very little of how they feel, how they think, how they see the world around them.

When we look at ourselves we look at how we feel, how we think, how we see the world around us. We often know very little of how we behave, how we look, how we interact with others.

That’s why every judgement, every comparison, every attempt to explain is unfair and unbalanced. And we need to learn to live with this.

Once again balanced

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When you are overwhelmed, it is OK to let go of one thing. And then two. And then three.

Of course, we all want to get everything done, and there are so many things that are important for us, for our dears, for our community, for our company. But you are not achieving more if you want to keep pushing when you are at your limit. You are just giving yourself, and everybody else, the illusion that things are progressing. So, cancel that meeting, skip the gym for the week, go for a take away instead of home cooking, spend half an hour longer in bed in the morning.

Until you are once again balanced.