Tag: self-improvement

Uncertain

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Life is uncertain.

We try to build walls around it, yet it continues to escape. Nobody could have predicted what the world is experiencing just two months ago. Nobody can argue they know what will happen in the next two.

Of course, we are living an extreme case.

But life IS uncertain, and we know it. We know how difficult it is to build a career, to make a relationship work, to be consistent in time, to raise kids, to plan for retirement, to stick to our own word, to make it worth it.

Things happen that are completely out of our control, all the time, and we suffer most when we attempt to give a sense, write a story, change it all.

There’s a way to prepare for uncertain. It is recognizing uncertainty and accept it as a given.

There can be reassurance in the chaos that surrounds us if we just stop pretending it is something we can fix.

Absorbed

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When you are absorbed into something for a continued period, you end up hating that thing, wanting to run away from it, falling for the first new object in front of you.

Of course, that does not reflect your true feelings, it’s just a reaction. To being depleted, to not getting where you want to go, to the fact you had to leave behind a lot of other different, possible things.

And of course, that is also the moment you have to stick with it. Take a break, leave it for a while, enjoy something less absorbing, and eventually go back to your obsession to find it renewed.

It’s the only way to become a pro.

Moments of tranquillity

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We all have our moments of tranquillity. It’s when our breath is calm, our senses undisturbed, our mind dreamy, our body unshaken. In such moments, nothing bad can happen to us, and all the stories we tell ourselves are leading exactly where we want to go.

Of course, moments of tranquillity are volatile. Just make sure you notice them as they come and go.

Not ok

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We are all facing an unprecedented situation, unrealistic expectations and an (even more than usual) uncertain future.

Let’s be kind with ourselves and each other, because things are very likely to not be ok for a while.

That’s fine, let’s do our best.

Two buckets

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There is a tension between execution and challenge.

Execution is about getting things done. When you execute, you act on assumptions, hoping that those assumptions are correct. Assumptions come from experience and from socialization (the assumptions of others), and in most cases they help us get by.

Challenge is about changing things. That’s when assumptions get questioned, when you are seeking a different way, something new. Challenge is a more solitary job than execution, and it requires additional energy to buy people into your new perspective.

Balancing the two is necessary. If you only execute, things will not progress, you will not progress. If you only challenge, you will soon deplete all your energy, and eventually be left alone.

What are you going to settle for?

What are you going to fight for?

Be aware of the composition of these two buckets.