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Three items

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If you draft a list of what is important and you end up with more than three items, that is just a to-do list.

You can focus on one item at any single time, and you can allow one or two more for when that single, most important one is giving you a break. That is it. Anything that you add on top of that is just confusion and distraction, sucking up energies and resources that you could otherwise invest delivering against what is important.

You pick the items on that list. But make it so they are no more than three.

First, then

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First perfect the making of the dough, then go buy the perfect oven and tools to cook the best pizza.

First learn to communicate transparently and effectively, then go buy the app that makes your company more open and inclusive.

First establish a practice of running, then go buy the equipment that will make you feel more like a pro.

It’s easier to start with the details that embellish the core. It makes us feel as if we are doing something important, as if we are going in the right direction. But if you do not get the core right, you have nothing to fall back onto when you realize details are just details.

Real challenges

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The fourth blog post.

The second month in an important project.

The tenth episode of your podcast.

The sixth year in your wedding.

The eleventh year of being a parent.

The fifth exam at the university.

The twentieth cover letter you customise.

The third year in your job.

That’s where the real challenge lies.

Getting started takes mindset and effort, but the adrenaline of “new” might make up for a lack in both. It’s when you have to keep going with no cheers at every turn that things get tough.

Lessons

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You can find great lessons everywhere, even in books you are just reading for pleasure and enjoyment.

“There is satisfaction,” he said to Dalinar, “in creating a list of things you can actually accomplish, then removing them one at a time. As I said, a simple joy.”

“Unfortunately, I’m needed for bigger things than shopping.”

“Isn’t that always the problem? Tell me, my friend. You talk about your burdens and the difficulty of the decision. What is the cost of a principle?”

“The cost? There shouldn’t be a cost to being principled.”

“Oh? […] Isn’t a principle about what you give up, not what you gain?”

“So it’s all negative?” Dalinar said. “Are you implying that nobody should have principles, because there’s no benefit to them?”

“Hardly,” Nohadon said. “But maybe you shouldn’t be looking for life to be easier because you choose to do something that is right! Personally, I think life is fair. It’s merely that often, you can’t immediately see what balances it.”

Brandon Sanderson, Oathbringer

Finite

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At any one point in time there’s an infinite number of possibilities around you. The number of possibilities to do good is infinite as well.

Sounds like a positive thing, and it is, but if you keep moving from one possibility to the next, if you are overwhelmed by their numbers, if you lose focus distracted by the closest or fanciest one over and over again, that is equivalent to not having any possibility at all.

The understanding that you are finite and can only commit to a limited number of things in the course of your lifetime is needed to make an impact.