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Self-sabotage

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Sometimes a situation just turns out to have the worst possible outcome, and you could have told from the beginning.

You had spotted the discomfort in approaching it, the signals, the opposition of others. You had noticed that nothing was going the way it was supposed to. You had called it difficult, wrong, impossible. You had said many times you were giving it your best, and despite that, you could not see any improvement. You had wanted to quit and give up, in different occasions, and yet stayed in it until the very, inevitable, tragic ending.

This is self-sabotaging.

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You do not have to manage change to make it happen.

You can still make a decision and expect everyone to act accordingly.

You can drift through the days and wait for something to come your way.

You can stand on the side and take credit for whatever success will come.

You do not have to manage change, but when you manage change you make it a shared experience. A shared decision, a shared opportunity, a shared outcome. It is only by managing change that you can make a long-term impact.

Within reach

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The only thing we have moderate control on is ourselves. What we do. How we react. The way we talk about the events of life. Who we spend time with, and where.

And yet, we spend an incredible amount of energy trying to guide what others think, the random events, what others will decide, and whether they want to spend time with us or not.

Focus on what is within reach.

The version you will never be

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Eventually, you will have to make peace with the version of yourself you will never be.

With your childhood dreams. With what your family wanted for you. With what you never liked and got inculcated with anyway simply because you were born there. With what has changed and will not come back.

It’s a huge challenge, probably one of the biggest one you’ll face.

What you are not, you simply are not.

It does matter

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If someone would look at you now, what would they see?

If they would check on you while you are working, relaxing, exercising, parenting, leading, what feeling would they be left with?

If they would have a chance to take a peek at you when no one else is watching, what would they learn?

This is the compassionate responsibility to try and be your better self at all times, it is not the merciless burden that makes you give up.

And it does matter.