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Sequence

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Try not to have two things requiring your immediate attention at the same time.

Always choose one. Keep it front and centre as you dedicate your full energy to it. Push the other (or the others) to the background, silencing its pressing requests. Once you have completed a meaningful part of what you have selected first, only then move your full attention to what is next. Repeat.

Sometimes you are so busy that things keep taking turns in your field of attention. You complete a task, move on to a second item, go back to the first to continue to the next milestone, begin with a third to take it to completion, switch to the second to progress it some more, and so on. If feels like you are dancing.

That’s the incredible feeling of working in sequence.

Superpower

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Can you put boundaries around what happens in a given day? Can you keep it enclosed in the specific situation, the momentary emotion, the sudden thought?

Professional setbacks don’t have to spill into your personal life. A rejection or even a big failure do not have to determine your next actions or take away from your motivation. Someone being rude does not mean that every person you will meet from there onwards will be deserving a cold stare.

What happens is in the moment. The story we build around it can stay with us for a long time.

What happens is immutable. The story we build around it can be shaped however we prefer.

It’s a superpower to reclaim.

Not a 0, not a 1

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Success is never binary. And very rarely you land on a 0 or on a 1.

Most often, you find yourself somewhere in between.

Understand this to appreciate the progress you have made, as well as the path you still have ahead of you.

The road you take

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If you navigate the internet in search of answers and all you get is confusion and frustration, you are not any different from most of us.

And it is not that people are mean and they don’t want to let you in their own secret.

The point is that there is no secret.

There are probably hundreds of roads to get where you are going. Some of them seem similar, some are very different, some contradict each other. Some are cryptic, some are clear, some seem to go in completely different direction but are actually the two sides of a same coin.

It’s easy to get lost on roads that others have built for themselves.

That’s when you understand that the only road that matters is the one you choose to take. Every day.

Only once

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It’s rarely as bad as we think it is.

It’s rarely as bad as we think it will be.

We put stakes on the things that happen to us and we never pause to think that it is us who determine how important outcomes are.

Is failing at a job truly that disastrous?

Is delivering a project late really so determinant of the company’s future success?

Is expressing our doubts or asking a difficult question truly going to jeopardize the relationship with a friend?

If a behavior is repeated across time, it is wise to take note and try to address it. But if it happens only once, is it really going to be that bad?

Probably not.