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The greatest invention

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Ask a historian, “What was mankind’s greatest invention?” Fire? The wheel? The sword? I would argue it’s history itself. History isn’t fact. It’s narrative, one carefully curated and shaped. Under the pen strokes of the right scribe, a villain becomes a hero. A lie becomes the truth.

Foundation, season 1 episode 9

You probably have no interest in writing or controlling history, but you should be invested in managing your own narrative. Who you are, what you stand for, what version of you is in your future, what goals will take you there, what people will you have closeby, what decisions you are making every day.

It’s easy to delegate all of this to others.

Be the right scribe to your very own history.

Without judgement

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In most things we see presage, meaning, intention. That’s our way to try and control the chaos of life.

But just because our child is slow eating their lunch, it doesn’t mean they will be slow at everything as they grow up.

Just because someone has not answered our call for help, it doesn’t mean they don’t care.

Just because we have not been awarded that important role, it doesn’t mean we are less worthy of consideration.

More often then not, things merely happen. We should be brave enough to accept that without judgement and move on.

Reality is in the middle

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Two sure ways to get stuck.

  1. Blaming it all on the others.
  2. Blaming it all on yourself.

Reality is always somewhere in the middle. The only way to move forward to find the new beginning is to acknowledge that others are not out to get you, and that you are not that bad after all.

There’s always a way.

Reflection and learning

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Every ending is a new beginning.

But of course, we need to be able to appreciate the ending. To grieve. To be mad, frustrated, disappointed, sad. To stay with the negative for some time and let others know that we suffer because of the ending.

Then, we can start thinking about what “new” looks like. Because often, continuing on the same path, going back exactly where the ending broke the path, is not the best way to look for a beginning.

Every ending is a new beginning.

Let’s not use that anymore as a band aid on top of a wound, but as a process of reflection and learning.

The effect of time

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Healing takes time.

You won’t probably feel much better after a pill, a visit to the doctor, a massage, a session with a therapist. But with time, those things will have an effect.

You have to give healing time. Even when it seems like you don’t have any.