Tag: resolutions

When they don’t know

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One thing worth remembering is that, with the lack of new information, people will put you in the boxes they have created for others. And they will usually put you in the most negative, catastrophic ones. The ones they built for those acquaintances who hurt them, left them, cheated on them. Because they are easy to reach and they protect them better.

If you are late with a deliverable at work, they will relate you to that past colleague who never did their job.

If you are not answering a message, they will relate you to that friend they were very attached to and they eventually lost touch with.

If you don’t say “hi” with a smile, they will relate you to that grumpy old man that lives next door and never holds the door for others.

When people don’t know, they will be fast at drawing from their previous (negative) experiences and extend them over to you.

So, if you want to stand out, over communicate. Tell how things are, what happened, what you will do, how you felt.

When people don’t know, let them know.

Not a big deal

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There’s nothing better than being thanked for the effort, for the thought, for the action.

And very rarely a “thank you” is given.

Because the things we do are not visible, as they shouldn’t be.

Because others are self-centred, as they should be.

Because what we have done is, after all, not that big of a deal.

If you are doing it for the “thank you”, stop doing it now.

Find purpose instead.

Behaviour

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I am not sure life is simple, but this is a great reminder of how culture, authenticity, and leadership work.

There’s the things you wish you were doing.

There’s the things you’re saying that you’re doing.

There’s the things you are actually doing.

Behaviour is not a wish, is not a best case scenario, is not a finish line that you never get to reach. Behaviour is here and now. It is today.

What are you waiting for?

Measuring habits

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A way to measure habits is by how long the streak is.

Another way is by how easy it is to start a new one after you’ve taken a break.

Suffering

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The purpose of life is not to eliminate suffering. It is not to reduce it either.

The purpose of life is to get acquainted with it.

So that you can recognise it, manage it, and enjoy all the little moments when suffering is not there.