Tag: resistance

On your own

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Investing in a relationship is more than merely being there with kindness when the other shows up.

It is about reaching out, it is about preparing and anticipating, it is about giving and taking, it is about having difficult conversations, accepting criticism, opening yourself to a view that is not yours. It is about making that extra effort to be still there, with kindness, when the other is not around.

It takes time, it takes effort, it takes resources.

But if you do not invest in relationships, you will be left on your own.

Sanderson

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A few of things to take away from Brandon Sanderson (popular writer of fantasy and science-fiction) breaking Kickstarter in the past week or so.

Nuisance to invaluable

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When you create problems, even if you do that without intention, even if you do that to try to improve some other things, and leave your peers to deal with the consequences, you are a nuisance.

When you create problems, particularly if you do that without intention, particularly if you do that to try to improve some other things, and help your peers to find a solution, you are a resource.

When you solve problems, with intention, in the attempt of making things better, and you bring your peers along the journey, you become invaluable.

Zigzag

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When you feel the pressure of a deadline, a lack of results, a performance review, and you still manage to let things be, that’s when you are setting yourself up for long term success.

It is the day-to-day work, the long-term commitment that set you up for the outcome. It is not the last minute urgency, the sudden opportunity, the finalisation of all minor details.

Act in the present, believe in what you did in the past, and take what’s coming tomorrow as a continuation of your journey. Zigzagging without purpose is not the solution.

As narrow as possible

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Frustration and discontent grow in the space between what you say you will do and what you actually do. In the space between how you say you feel and how you actually feel. In the space between what you say you value and what you actually value.

Keep that space as narrow as possible.

It’s the road to joy.