Tag: resistance

Powerful instincts

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There are two powerful instincts we need to fight when things don’t go as we’d like.

The instinct to hide, to go ahead as if nothing happened.

And the instinct to find an immediate, easy, known answer.

In both cases, we take a shortcut, as we are basically hoping that things will magically go back to normal. It might even be the case, but it is rare.

If we can fight those forces for long enough, a more rational approach might kick in. It’s when we start looking at the situation, we collect facts and data, we formulate hypothesis, we make changes, and we reassess.

Of course, it’s more complex, and it might even get us face-to-face with some hard truths we’d prefer to escape.

And it’s still the most reliable way to move on and progress.

Courage

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Scale down.

Lower your targets.

Take a break.

Build a profitable business.

Hire one person less than what you had planned.

Stop working two hours earlier.

Do not reply to a thread unless you can really add some value.

Set sustainable and humane growth goals.

Tell your colleague to take the rest of the day off.

Focus on a niche, for real.

Reject the invite to an all-hands meeting.

Set some time a part in your calendar to develop relationships.

Keep your opinion for yourself and bring facts to the table.

Think about what is going on.

Look inside and write down how you are feeling.

Withdraw from a recruiting process that does not feel right.

All those things require a lot of courage, simply because almost nobody is doing them. That’s where you can start making your story different.

The best you can hope for

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There is nothing more pointless than to act to please others.

To do things just because you hope that others will be happy with them. To show off your work just because you hope that others will appreciate it, like it, follow it. To share words of advice just because you hope that others will follow them and be happy and recognise your contribution.

Find the motivation within, be kind and fair, and accept that others will run with their lives to the best of their own circumstances.

That’s the best you can hope for.

Your only focus

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Your goal is not to avoid pain, always be brave, stay clear of risks, shy away from difficult conversations, always be positive, forgo heavy responsibilities, never get angry, be perfect.

Your goal is to learn how to manage all that, how to continue on your journey despite all that, how to fall, and say sorry, and say I did not mean to, and get back on track.

Most things are out of your control. The way you adapt to most things should then be your only focus.

Your turn

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It’s your turn.

There’s no need for someone to tell you it is, no need to wait for the perfect situation, no need to take that training or listen to that podcast before you get to it.

It’s your turn, your turn is now.

You own this.