Tag: resistance

Get satisfaction

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When we are close to something, it’s difficult to notice progress.

Just as you can’t see your kids grow day after day, it’s difficult to see your career develop, your relationship evolve, your project build the right momentum, when you are so involved.

Take a broader look, take an outside look if at all possible. Consider a longer time frame, list down all the achievements, own your own narrative, master the capacity to frame what you see today in a wider picture.

That’s the key to satisfaction.

Definition

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The longer you can be without defining a situation, a person, a thought, an outcome, the more you can enjoy the moment.

When you define you draw boundaries. You set differences between what is good and what is bad. You start aiming for something different while at the same time clinging to the desire that the definition will always be valid. You build, for yourself and others, a world that is much smaller than its potential.

Defining is natural, it’s an attempt to take control of the unknown.

And the longer you can be without it, the more chances you will have.

What to do with ideas

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If you have an idea and you keep it to yourself, it is most likely going to die in a sea of distraction, busyness, and contrasting opportunities.

If you have an idea and you share it with someone, it might still die, but it might also grow stronger and find a sounding board.

If you have an idea and you make it public, it will stick around and eventually find its way to those who care.

Two outcomes

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Most of the decisions we take bring change in other people’s lives, jobs, situations. And they might not be just ready to accept that.

When involving people in the decision itself is not possible, you need to at least allocate time for them to digest it, settle into it, and decide whether they are going to stick around or not.

And you need to be open to both outcomes.

More interesting questions

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We wonder what is acceptable, what is right, what makes a good wife or a good husband, what makes a good parent, a good friend, a good employee, a good colleague.

And while wondering that, we often take an outside perspective, as we put most of the emphasis on what others think.

But what is acceptable for us? What do we believe is right, wrong, good, fair, worthy of respect? Where do we draw our line? And what are we going to do to make it so others will accept that?

Those are way more interesting questions.