You don’t always have an answer, you don’t always know what to do, you don’t always understand what is happening.
The trick is not to try to fake it. Not to try to escape it.
If you can just stay with the feeling for a while, what you need will come.
Confidence is about being at ease with uncertainty, without wanting to get rid of it at all costs.
We always have thoughts.
Thoughts about what’s about to happen. Thoughts about what we would like to happen. Thoughts about what that person we barely know is thinking about that minuscule thing we did yesterday. Thoughts about our kids, our jobs, our relationships, our lives. Thoughts about how we will get out of a nasty situation. Thoughts about how good it was, how bad it will be, how incredible it could be if only.
We always have thoughts and we will always have them. That’s our great distractor. Not our phones, not our kids, not the noisy neighbor. Sure, all those things amplify our capacity to be distracted, but our own thoughts are the great distractor.
Train to be here, in the moment, and reinforce that link with what is happening.
Help people by sharing what others think, and they will find a way to interpret that and apply it to their lives.
Help people by playing back what they think, and they will find a way to figure out themselves and be consistent in their lives.
On the other hand, help people by telling them what others mean or what to do, and they will just ignore, even when you approach them with the best of intentions.
You have got to give yourself the chance to be surprised.
Not because you are unprepared. Not because you had not thought about something enough. Not because someone is trying to get ahead of you. Not because you have lost the bigger picture.
Just because people are surprising, and you got to give them credit for it as well as allow yourself to feel positively about it, without feeling in any way diminished.
We spend an incredible amount of time looking at others behaviour and trying to figure out what they think, when actually the largest impact comes from changing our own behaviour and the way we think.
Awareness starts from within. Don’t get distracted.
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