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Upside down

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Asking questions is more important than answering them.

You should ask questions when you know everything and when you know nothing. When you are alone and when you are in good company. When things go just as you planned and when nothing seems to fit in the right place.

We tend to think that confidence equals having few doubts and that experience means you are finally in a position to dispense answers.

In reality, confidence if feeling ok with not knowing and experience means you are faster at figuring out the questions to ask.

The world is upside down.

Acceptable and achievable

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The stories we are told about what leaders have done and what peers have done have a strong impact on the way we will behave.

What leaders have done shape our view of what is acceptable.

What peers have done make the acceptable desirable (and achievable) for us too.

Instead of leaving your organization in the arbitrary hands of internal gossiping and politicking, use stories strategically to guide behavior.

Critics, cheerleaders, and coaches

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Sometimes you need a critic, as they might take you back to earth and set you on a path of improvement. Sometimes you need a cheerleader, as they might give you that boost of confidence you are lacking to truly appreciate what you have just achieved.

And you always need a coach. They will see your trajectory and help you find what you need to get there.

Most of what is good

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You need to be able to discern between different shades and understand that most of what is good happens in the middle.

You can support a candidate even if their thinking does not match yours 1:1.

You can have a conversation with someone even when you do not share the same view of the world.

You can be committed to a project even when it’s a cause of stress and disappointment.

You can love someone even if your heart does not beat faster every time you see them.

You can appreciate a person even though you would not give them certain responsibilities.

Idealizing and romanticizing is the enemy of contentment.

Pick your fights

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There is no fight you can win without losing at least a little of the relationship underlying it.

And there is no relationship for which you won’t regret having lost even a little piece.

Pick your fights very carefully.