People and systems

Companies talk a whole lot about individuals and they don’t talk enough about systems.

That person is not performing.

That lady is challenging.

That guy is always late.

That colleague never comes to the office.

That hire was a mistake.

And to be honest, if it happens once in a while, those statements might also be true.

But most companies spend too much time in what is not so different than gossiping, when often problems are in the way things are done, the way people are managed, the processes everyone is asked to follow.

Angles

Your sadness might be caused by another person’s insecurity.

Your fear might be caused by another person’s boldness.

Your silence might be caused by another person’s loneliness.

There are different angles to the same story. And the capacity to appreciate more than one of them will help you get past whatever it is that is holding you back.

FOMO

I think there might be an opportunity there.

That’s a sentence that destroys focus, motivation, productivity. Because it is true, there probably is an opportunity here, there, and everywhere in between. And that’s not a good reason to pause and go pursue it.

Defending boundaries

Others will always ask, demand even, that you change your mind, do something, behave in a given way. And of course, it is your responsibility to accept what you feel comfortable with and push back against what is not for you. What does not help your own goal. What does not stand for you own values. What takes you farther from your purpose.

You set the boundaries and you are the one defending them.