Tag: problems

The wrong thing

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We all feel fear.

Fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of not being useful enough, fear of being let go, fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, fear of no progress, fear of judgement, fear of failure. And probably, a thousand other fears.

We all feel that. We do.

And the problem is when that fear begins to drive action.

Failing to disclose something important during the hiring process because we might get rejected.

Telling a seemingly unimportant lie to ensure we can hide for a little longer.

Putting others down to allow our work to shine.

Turning a blind eye on a detail so that we can continue uncontested.

There is nothing more natural than fear. Embrace it rather than reject it. And make sure that, despite the fear, you will still do the right thing.

The lock and the key

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First, you need to figure out what story you have to tell.

Second, you need to figure out who might be interested in the story you have to tell.

Third, you have to tell the story.

One and two might be interchangeable, and actually it is generally a good idea to search for a lock and then fashion a key.

But the problem is that most just go with three.

The effect of time

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Healing takes time.

You won’t probably feel much better after a pill, a visit to the doctor, a massage, a session with a therapist. But with time, those things will have an effect.

You have to give healing time. Even when it seems like you don’t have any.

What is keeping you

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When you have made up you mind about something and still struggle to follow through, share the decision with someone.

It will help you go deeper, see your arguments from another perspective, and it will point to that part of the whole that is keeping you.

The thing about misunderstandings

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What you say is going to be misunderstood.

There’s really not much to say, it’s just the nature of communication. You deliver a message from your own position, with your own understanding, and the other person interprets all of that from their own position, with a different understanding. This happens inevitably, no matter how close the speaker and the listener are. It’s not your fault. It’s not their fault. It’s just how it is.

The only thing you can do about it is to repeat the message over and over again.

Of course, you will become boring after while, people will start telling you they have already heard that, some will make fun of you, others will just stop listening and move on.

But it really is the only thing you can do about misunderstandings.

Just be careful that the message you choose to repeat is really the one that matters to your purpose.