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A close familiarity

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Sometimes people fail to succeed because they can’t accept to suck.

If you want to master something, you have to get accustomed to the idea that you are going to suck. You are going to suck at the thing you want to master – for a long time, before you actually master it -, and you are going to suck at most of the other things that you are not interested in mastering. That’s why it’s easier to move from one activity to the next, averaging them all.

Success requires a close familiarity with the idea that you suck.

Powerful instincts

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There are two powerful instincts we need to fight when things don’t go as we’d like.

The instinct to hide, to go ahead as if nothing happened.

And the instinct to find an immediate, easy, known answer.

In both cases, we take a shortcut, as we are basically hoping that things will magically go back to normal. It might even be the case, but it is rare.

If we can fight those forces for long enough, a more rational approach might kick in. It’s when we start looking at the situation, we collect facts and data, we formulate hypothesis, we make changes, and we reassess.

Of course, it’s more complex, and it might even get us face-to-face with some hard truths we’d prefer to escape.

And it’s still the most reliable way to move on and progress.

Between decision and execution

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Most problems arise between decision and execution. It’s when you start to reconsider based only on fear, redundant or irrelevant information, and shiny new opportunities.

To mitigate this, try three things.

  1. Make the decision public. Talk about it and commit to it.
  2. Assign a responsible person. Someone who is in charge and has the power, right now, to execute on the decision.
  3. Keep the implementation time to the bare minimum. Act fast, don’t delay.

Courage

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Scale down.

Lower your targets.

Take a break.

Build a profitable business.

Hire one person less than what you had planned.

Stop working two hours earlier.

Do not reply to a thread unless you can really add some value.

Set sustainable and humane growth goals.

Tell your colleague to take the rest of the day off.

Focus on a niche, for real.

Reject the invite to an all-hands meeting.

Set some time a part in your calendar to develop relationships.

Keep your opinion for yourself and bring facts to the table.

Think about what is going on.

Look inside and write down how you are feeling.

Withdraw from a recruiting process that does not feel right.

All those things require a lot of courage, simply because almost nobody is doing them. That’s where you can start making your story different.

Your only focus

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Your goal is not to avoid pain, always be brave, stay clear of risks, shy away from difficult conversations, always be positive, forgo heavy responsibilities, never get angry, be perfect.

Your goal is to learn how to manage all that, how to continue on your journey despite all that, how to fall, and say sorry, and say I did not mean to, and get back on track.

Most things are out of your control. The way you adapt to most things should then be your only focus.