When a platform welcomes hatred, harassment, violence, disrespect.
Why should you spend time on it?
Why should your kids spend time on it?
How can we possibly glorify it?
What makes people invest money on it?
The point, there’s a choice to make. And we seem to be consistently not capable of making the right one.
Most of the decisions we take bring change in other people’s lives, jobs, situations. And they might not be just ready to accept that.
When involving people in the decision itself is not possible, you need to at least allocate time for them to digest it, settle into it, and decide whether they are going to stick around or not.
And you need to be open to both outcomes.
We wonder what is acceptable, what is right, what makes a good wife or a good husband, what makes a good parent, a good friend, a good employee, a good colleague.
And while wondering that, we often take an outside perspective, as we put most of the emphasis on what others think.
But what is acceptable for us? What do we believe is right, wrong, good, fair, worthy of respect? Where do we draw our line? And what are we going to do to make it so others will accept that?
Those are way more interesting questions.
Not everything that you like, that you want to do, that seems interesting, that you are committed to, comes easily. Sometimes the pursue of that thing means you get stuck in other aspects of your life, simply because you are left with no energy for them.
And so, it might be a good idea to put that thing on hold, to wait for a better time, to progress on other fronts. There’s nothing worst than achieving something when knowing that all the rest has been left behind.
In dark times, solitude is never the answer.
Because in solitude the darkest narrative becomes the only possible one. There is no escape to negativity and self-pity if we don’t connect, don’t open up, don’t reach out.
The good news is, solitude is a choice.
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