Irrelevant

Nobody likes the idea of being irrelevant, and yet a growing incapacity to focus and control our attention is making us more irrelevant than ever.

What will you do about that?

People who multitask all the time can’t filter out irrelevancy. They can’t manage a working memory. They’re chronically distracted. They initiate much larger parts of their brain that are irrelevant to the task at hand. […] they actually think they’re more productive. They actually think they tend to – and most notably, they think they can shut it off, and that’s been the most striking aspect of this research. […] unfortunately, they’ve developed habits of mind that make it impossible for them to be laser-focused. They’re suckers for irrelevancy. They just can’t keep on task.

Clifford Nass, The Myth of Multitasking

Not there

Find something that makes you happy and stick to it.

Figure out what gives you energy and double down on it.

Understand what gives you a sense of accomplishment and do that consistently.

Notice what puts a smile on your face and expand that until it fills most of your days.

The alternative is a spiral of negativity that will be every day more difficult to escape.

Do not go there.

A different route

What if a simple task, instead of fueling regret for the lack of a challenge, would push us to give our best consistently?

What if a simple goal, instead of fueling discontent for the little reward, would make us full?

Difficult, complex, busy, huge are often considered measures of success and satisfaction.

You can take a different route.

Small is your buddy

Start from small.

A little thing that bothers you just a little. Something you want to change. Something you want to try. Something that’s been on your mind for a while.

Something small.

We often fail because we want to get to the end result right from the start.

We go on a diet, and we want the body we desire on week 1.

We start a blog, and we want an audience from day 1.

We land a new job, and we want to love it already on the first month.

We found a new company, and all we think about is to make it a unicorn.

Start from small instead. Break the big achievement down into small, if you need.

Small is your buddy.

Getting used to it

It’s not the next big thing. It’s not the role you want. It’s not the company you’d love to work for. It’s not the next 1,000 or 1,000,000 euros. It’s not the year that is starting soon or the new season.

For as much as having goals and ambitions can be fuel for your doing, make sure that does not get you burnt while you are seeking peace of mind.

In the end, it’s simply what you have here and now.

Get used to it.