Even in the darkest hour, there are things that keep you going.
Things that give you energy, that make you want to continue to try, that help you to not give up.
Even in the darkest hour, we need to be able to appreciate those things, name them, doble down on them.
That’s how we make the darkest hour a little less dark.
If you want to meet somebody, take the first step.
If you would benefit from being more networked, take the first step.
If you think you should develop some skills, take the first step.
If you seek a reference for the next job application, take the first step.
If you’ve met an interesting person you want to stay in touch with, take the first step.
If you need a change in your life, take the first step.
If you crave a chat with a friend, take the first step.
Things will not just happen because you go through your day, and the first step is always the most difficult to take. Nobody else will take it for you.
Life is a combination of different parts.
Yourself. The people you get to build ties with. Your family. The work you do. Your beliefs and principles. Your well-being. The job you do to benefit your community. The partners you choose.
And when something bad happens in one part of our life – we get fired, a relationship ends, we are stuck in our development, etc. – it is very common to magnify that until it becomes the totality and the absolute reality of our entire existence.
To put things back in perspective, we might need help. And perspective is always a dear friend.
Since early on, they tell us it’s going to be easy.
That most things are natural, that talent is innate, that success is overnight. That relationships are a given. That having kids is just as simple as drinking a cup of coffee. That the way you go into the world, your purpose, your principles, are going to be very clear and eventually magically manifest in front of you. Without any effort.
Instead, it’s tough.
Almost every thing that is worth something requires blood, sweat, and tears.
And that’s probably what makes it worth it.
Journey over destination.
A thought is just a thought.
It comes and goes. It might come back, and certainly it will go away once more.
The challenge is that often we take that thought and build our reality around it. That person is mean to mean. Nobody wants me. I am not good enough. And by doing that, we twist our reality to match the thought. The thought will stay and we become conditioned by it.
Blow thoughts away, particularly the negative, devious, perverse, mean ones. They are just thoughts, until you build them into something bigger.
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