You do not have to manage change to make it happen.
You can still make a decision and expect everyone to act accordingly.
You can drift through the days and wait for something to come your way.
You can stand on the side and take credit for whatever success will come.
You do not have to manage change, but when you manage change you make it a shared experience. A shared decision, a shared opportunity, a shared outcome. It is only by managing change that you can make a long-term impact.
Saying no is a sign of commitment.
When you know that what you are doing matters, you want to dedicate to it as much time and energy as possible. And you can only do that if you have developed the capacity to resist alternatives, to refuse help, to reject opportunities.
Saying no is saying you are on the right path.
Eventually, you will have to make peace with the version of yourself you will never be.
With your childhood dreams. With what your family wanted for you. With what you never liked and got inculcated with anyway simply because you were born there. With what has changed and will not come back.
It’s a huge challenge, probably one of the biggest one you’ll face.
What you are not, you simply are not.
If someone would look at you now, what would they see?
If they would check on you while you are working, relaxing, exercising, parenting, leading, what feeling would they be left with?
If they would have a chance to take a peek at you when no one else is watching, what would they learn?
This is the compassionate responsibility to try and be your better self at all times, it is not the merciless burden that makes you give up.
And it does matter.
Start from small.
A little thing that bothers you just a little. Something you want to change. Something you want to try. Something that’s been on your mind for a while.
Something small.
We often fail because we want to get to the end result right from the start.
We go on a diet, and we want the body we desire on week 1.
We start a blog, and we want an audience from day 1.
We land a new job, and we want to love it already on the first month.
We found a new company, and all we think about is to make it a unicorn.
Start from small instead. Break the big achievement down into small, if you need.
Small is your buddy.
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