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Without judgement

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In most things we see presage, meaning, intention. That’s our way to try and control the chaos of life.

But just because our child is slow eating their lunch, it doesn’t mean they will be slow at everything as they grow up.

Just because someone has not answered our call for help, it doesn’t mean they don’t care.

Just because we have not been awarded that important role, it doesn’t mean we are less worthy of consideration.

More often then not, things merely happen. We should be brave enough to accept that without judgement and move on.

Reality is in the middle

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Two sure ways to get stuck.

  1. Blaming it all on the others.
  2. Blaming it all on yourself.

Reality is always somewhere in the middle. The only way to move forward to find the new beginning is to acknowledge that others are not out to get you, and that you are not that bad after all.

There’s always a way.

Humiliation

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Rejection does not have to go hand in hand with humiliation.

No matter how frustrated we are for the situation, no matter how much we have pondered and considered and reviewed, no matter how much time we have lost. In the moment when we deliver a decision of rejection, history is meaningless, and all that matters is helping the person we reject to maintain their face and rebuild their confidence, so that they can move on and do fantastic things.

In fact, rejection is more easily accepted when it does not come with humiliation attached to it.

The wrong thing

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We all feel fear.

Fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of not being useful enough, fear of being let go, fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, fear of no progress, fear of judgement, fear of failure. And probably, a thousand other fears.

We all feel that. We do.

And the problem is when that fear begins to drive action.

Failing to disclose something important during the hiring process because we might get rejected.

Telling a seemingly unimportant lie to ensure we can hide for a little longer.

Putting others down to allow our work to shine.

Turning a blind eye on a detail so that we can continue uncontested.

There is nothing more natural than fear. Embrace it rather than reject it. And make sure that, despite the fear, you will still do the right thing.

Infinite ways

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You have to leverage your strengths.

Not someone else’s strengths. Not someone else’s desire of what your strengths might be. Not someone else’s take on the world that might make your strengths feel redundant.

There are infinite ways to be successful.

Invest time in finding your strengths and money in developing them further.