The best way to be in charge of something is to embrace the mess.
Of course, you should be committed and you should deeply care. You should bring your A-game and make sure that everybody involved can bring their own too. You should plan and execute and iterate and educate and plan some more.
And then, when chaos strikes, as it certainly will, you should be ready to throw everything in the air and play with the mess of the new setting.
It might not only be the best way, but also the only one.
If you are really good at something, there’s no reason to make others feel bad for not being at your same level.
Lift them up instead, or at the very least show them a new way to think, to act, to relate, to commit.
You’ll make your good worth it.
When you muscle through an additional hour of work at the end of an intense day, the marginal return of the additional hour is negative.
When you take on another project during a period of intense activity for the whole team, the marginal return of the additional project is negative.
When you push yourself way beyond your physical limit after two hours of intense workout, the marginal return of the additional effort is negative.
When you send just one more comment on top of a chat conversation that already features more than twenty other voices, the marginal return of the additional comment is negative.
When you read one more article on a topic you are ready to write a full thesis about, the marginal return of the additional article is negative.
The cost of not knowing when it is time to stop is diminishing returns that compound over time.
It is exhausting.
A few of things to take away from Brandon Sanderson (popular writer of fantasy and science-fiction) breaking Kickstarter in the past week or so.
When you create problems, even if you do that without intention, even if you do that to try to improve some other things, and leave your peers to deal with the consequences, you are a nuisance.
When you create problems, particularly if you do that without intention, particularly if you do that to try to improve some other things, and help your peers to find a solution, you are a resource.
When you solve problems, with intention, in the attempt of making things better, and you bring your peers along the journey, you become invaluable.
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