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Simple things

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Do not complain about your privilege. As in, “I am busy”, “I have to deal with too much politics”, “I worked over the weekend”, and so on.

Do not bitch about peers and subordinates. As in, “This person is driving me mad”, “That guy is never doing their job”, “I never wanted to work with them”, and so on.

Do not undermine a plan that is not your favourite one. As in, “That was not my idea”, “We are going to do this instead”, “We will do it, but..”, and so on.

Simple things that every manager should be aware of.

Existential

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Most fears, nowadays, come from within.

There’s no existential threat in acknowledging that a colleague is doing a great job, yet we worry that our work might be underappreciated.

There’s no existential threat in telling a difficult truth, yet we worry that we might be breaking a relationship forever.

There’s no existential threat in welcoming an outsider in the community, yet we worry that it might alter the balance of things and force us to review our take on the world.

There’s no existential threat in being wrong, yet we worry that others will think less of us.

We need to find a way to comfort ourselves without harming those around us.

The number

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If the main goal of your job is a number. If there’s no larger purpose, no higher ambition, no bigger system. If when the goal is hit, the counter resets and you start from scratch. If you can do it all on your own, from anywhere, at anytime. If you not doing it, simply means that someone else will take over trying to reach the number.

Then, how long can it last?

Solutions

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For as counterintuitive as it might sound, sometimes – perhaps often times – you don’t need a solution.

You need to listen to yourself and others.

You need to stay in the situation.

You need to allow time to pass.

You need somebody to be in it with you.

If you can accept this kind of immobility, you’ll find that solutions are just a bridge to the following problem.

Out of fear

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Every decision you make out of fear is a decision you should not make.

Fear of being cheated.

Fear of being hurt.

Fear of being unsuccessful.

Deal with the fear first, and only then you will be equipped to make a decision.