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Magic

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Have you ever waited for your turn to speak – and I mean truly waiting, not forming-the-next sentence-in-your-mind-while-waiting-for-the-other-to-slip waiting?

Have you ever given others the time to express themselves the way they want before correcting their annoying behaviour?

Have you ever wanted for others, sincerely, something you also wanted for yourself? Have you tried to help them achieve that rather than cutting their chances with petty complaints?

Have you ever just asked a question without immediately anticipating the answer?

If you have, you know it’s magic. And it’s just what the world needs more of.

Compliments

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Why do we reject compliments?

Why can’t we take in positive comments, appreciations, praises?

Why don’t we make of a great review as big a deal as we do of a terrible one?

We need to be able to use compliments to shield us from stress and anxiety, to write with them the soundtrack to our days, to hold them close while we build our own identity.

Say “thank you!” the next time someone compliments you. Let it sink in, make it yours. Take it.

Perspective

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There’s not much you can do if others think poorly of you, don’t invite you out, avoid spending time with you, talk behind your back, badmouth you.

What you can do though is change the way you think of you and others.

That will shift the perspective and put the initial problem completely out of your mind.

Little and difficult

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It’s incredible how little people need.

Attention.

Care.

Support.

It’s equally incredible how difficult it is to give that to them. Unconditionally.

It wasn’t me

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Most of the times, when something is wrong, our first reaction is: it wasn’t me.

And most of the times, that really doesn’t matter. Because the point is that something is wrong, not who was the one who made it so.

Instead, you can try to say: I’ll fix it. Or: here’s what I will do about it.

When the wrong is righted, nobody will remember whose fault it was.