Tag: fear

Changing mind

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The effort we put in trying to explain we did not change our mind is puzzling.

You misunderstood.

They misunderstood.

You started executing without asking more questions first.

You should have challenged me on that.

The circumstances have changed.

The keyboard has eaten most of my words.

There was a lot of noise when we talked about this.

You assumed you knew, and you didn’t.

I wish you’d listen when I talk.

Changing mind is not the end of the world. Not being sure about what to do, and how to do it, and who should do it, is not the end of the world.

Spoiling a relationship to prove you are right. That is the end of the world.

Questions stick

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Measure and report whatever you want, just make sure it provides an answer to a strategic question.

If the number you are sharing with your team is not a direct answer to a question, it is just a number, and I bet you will soon be tempted to report a different one when things do not go as well.

Questions stick, and they define where you are going.

The lives of others

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We are experts on how to live the lives of others.

We know exactly what others should do, say, wear. We know how they feel and what motivates them. We tackle their problems better than if they were our own. We plan, argue, debate for them. We know everything, we hear everything, we understand everything.

And when it is our turn, we are stuck.

We are wonderful spectators and mediocre actors.

Because being under the spotlight is never easy. It is not for us – and indeed, we come up with many excuses when that happens -, it is not for those around us.

Start here to develop empathy.

Start here to get going.

Imperfect

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You are probably not the strongest.

You are probably not the smartest.

You are probably not the most fearless.

You are probably not the nicest.

You are probably not the greatest.

You are probably not the most positive.

And yet you are here. With the responsibility to make something strong, smart, fearless, nice, great, positive happen.

Work with your limits and don’t let them hold you back.

The world needs you.

Imperfect.

For all the parties

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Can you ask somebody to help you?

Can you put your ego aside and recognize that somebody else might have a perspective on a matter that would actually improve your own understanding?

Can you step on your fear and embarrassment and ask a simple question that might unlock tremendous progress?

Can you suspend your judgment and assumptions and open yourself to listening to what the other has to say?

Can you accept that somebody would care as much as you do?

Help is the most precious thing there is, for all the parties involved.

We do not leverage that enough in business and organizations.