Tag: fear

Shared way

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Doing work in a group also means acknowledging that different people have different ways to react to and express anxiety, stress, fear.

Most groups respond to the attitude of the person in power, and the person in power wants to get out of the unpleasant situation as soon as possible: more control, more direction, more drama. This often means everyone hides and looks for ways to stay afloat.

Successful groups manage to talk. To air their feelings and find a shared way forward. To take the differences and dig value from them. To step into the unknown together, at the same time.

Surveillance

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When you set out to figure out how to control your employees more closely – checking how much time they spend in meetings, measuring how many breaks they take during the day, asking for what reasons they are taking time off -, you have problems that no surveillance system in the world can fix.

Trust leads engagement.

Within reach

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The only thing we have moderate control on is ourselves. What we do. How we react. The way we talk about the events of life. Who we spend time with, and where.

And yet, we spend an incredible amount of energy trying to guide what others think, the random events, what others will decide, and whether they want to spend time with us or not.

Focus on what is within reach.

The version you will never be

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Eventually, you will have to make peace with the version of yourself you will never be.

With your childhood dreams. With what your family wanted for you. With what you never liked and got inculcated with anyway simply because you were born there. With what has changed and will not come back.

It’s a huge challenge, probably one of the biggest one you’ll face.

What you are not, you simply are not.

It does matter

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If someone would look at you now, what would they see?

If they would check on you while you are working, relaxing, exercising, parenting, leading, what feeling would they be left with?

If they would have a chance to take a peek at you when no one else is watching, what would they learn?

This is the compassionate responsibility to try and be your better self at all times, it is not the merciless burden that makes you give up.

And it does matter.