We lash out at people, we judge, we confine, we define, we spend most of our days commenting and evaluating what others do. And the truth is, we do not know any better.
It is perhaps our insecurity that makes us feel so certain when it comes to others.
If you are approaching the end of the year with some resolutions you wish to make, here is a tip that’s going to save you some hassle.
Start today.
There is no magical power in the beginning of a new year, no cleaner slate, to strength or power.
Start earlier instead, don’t let the resolution go stale in your mind, don’t lose the effect of the novelty, don’t let it sink before it lifts you.
Start today.
One of the things that will make you stand out most in business (and not only) is to close the circle on your promises.
This is true for individual contributors, teams, departments, and organizations as a whole.
If you promise something that you know you can’t deliver, or that you consistently don’t deliver over a period of time, the promise is most likely a way for you to get out of a difficult conversation, an awkward moment, a temporary discomfort.
It is not worth it.
Say only what you know you’ll do. And if you end up not doing it, give a reason and follow up.
When you meet your commitments, you build trust, gain confidence — look, you really can do it! — and grow the kind of backbone needed to say no when you truly can’t take something on.
Whitney Johnson, You Have to Stop Canceling and Rescheduling Things. Really.
When plans fail, it might be because you have not carefully considered the initial situation.
Leaps happen, but it is much more common to have things develop slowly, thanks to incremental and non-linear progresses.
And so, a great way to start a plan is to take a careful look at where you start from. What resources you have available. What people around you want. What initial wins you can get to start momentum. What it is that you can realistically achieve without changing most of what is going on.
You might know where you want it all to end, but if you start there, that is little more than wishful thinking. Taking little steps is the surest way to achieve success.
Merry Christmas.
Assuming good intentions is truly the only way to build relationships and stay sane.
Some people might act out of malicious intents, trying to manipulate others in order to get ahead. Most though go about their lives in the exact same way as we do. They might have different ideas, points of view, preferences. But they are trying to do their best with the cards they have been dealt.
The alternative is to question everything and doubt everyone.
It is possible, and some choose that. I am not sure though they understand how much energy, attention, resources that is taking from them.
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