Tag: fear

Follow your passion

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Sure, but how do you go about finding your passion?

It is not something innate, something you have inside and need to get out, something you have to dig deeper and deeper to reveal.

Passion gets built.

It is about doing, and doing, and doing some more. It is about getting better at what you do, master your area, connect with others that do the same, share and grow. And it is about ensuring that what you do and excel at aligns with who you are, with the narrative you want to promote about yourself as a human being.

Follow your passion is a great advice, once you know what your passion is. And to get to that, you need to be ready to not give up when things get tough, to not withdraw in front of adversity and challenges, to not change course every time something new and potentially brighter shines on the horizon.

Are you ready for that?

Insurmountable

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Nothing is easy, until it gets done.

At that point, it becomes the easiest thing you ever committed to.

That is because starting something new feels insurmountable. It makes us go against our beliefs (about ourselves and the world we live in), it forces us to question things we used to take for granted, it puts us in front of the fact we might have been wrong all along.

It is also the reason why there is rarely a deep connection between someone who has already done and someone who is about to do. To the former, the thing is trivial. To the latter, the thing is impossible.

So, if we ever want to share anything, it is important we talk about the journey rather than the destination. It’s the only way to build common ground, to put empathy at work, to elevate.

And if we want to do something, as we often do, the best way is to set out on the journey and just do it.

The game

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You can still play the game even if you don’t know how to play it, if you do not follow the rules, if you cheat and seek shortcuts, if nobody wants to play with you.

Of course, your time would be better invested in figuring out what to do and doing it right, consistently and over time.

At the end of the day, the choice is yours.

You stay

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When you are in a bad mood, your productivity goes down. The quality of your work is not as good as usual, even getting started feels painful. You are cranky, you put negative narratives first, you fail to appreciate what good there is.

Being in a bad mood also poisons everything around you. And most importantly, it makes people in your life be in a bad mood to.

There is no remedy to being in a bad mood. It just happens.

The only sensible thing to do is put all the residual resources into breaking the direct link between the mood and yourself. Indeed, often when you are in a bad mood, you look at yourself as a bad person too. That’s dangerous.

Moods come and go. You stay, often improved. If you can appreciate this difference more, nothing will stop you.

To meet an emotion is first to acknowledge it and then to feel it enough to get the message it carries. The feeling carries the message but it isn’t the message, and we won’t get the message without feeling at least some of the emotion. The message, of course, is very likely to be a form of emerging self-knowledge.

Dan Oestreich, How To Meet A Strong Emotion

After failure

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As we are nearing the start of a new year, and many of us will sit down and reflect on what new habits can be added to their lives, remember just one thing: what you do after you fail will determine your success.

Establishing a new habit takes time and effort, at some point you will most likely fail. For one day, for two days, for ten days.

Whether or not you can appreciate the work you have put in before the failure, whether or not you can remind yourself you are in this for the long term, whether or not you can pick the habit up again. That is going to be the measure of your success.

Always see the 61.