Tag: failure

Rules

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Setting rules is necessary in some cases. And it’s also exhausting for both parts.

The one who sets the rule needs to first come up with the rule, then communicate it, then enforce it, punish non compliance and adapt the rule so that it gets to cover new cases and new behaviour.

The one who is subjected to the rule needs to understand it, absorb it, find ways to work within the boundaries set by it, and perhaps at some point fight to have it changed.

There are few things that create a greater divide than rules.

If you truly have to set one, be sure it comes from a place of recognized expertise and authority, it is well communicated and it is open-ended.

And despite the best efforts, be prepared to have the bond of trust broken.

Two speeds

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Our world has been moving at two speeds for a long time now.

The virus that is spreading in so many countries today is an example of what has already been happening for decades. Somewhere, something ignites, and by the time the fire is everywhere, old and local institutions are still arguing to figure out whose fault it was and how they can drop the ball onto someone else.

The lack of global leadership makes it impossible for countries to act in time and with a common strategy, and inaction is the fertile ground on which so many of the problems our society is facing can soar undisturbed.

Changing the game

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What game are you playing?

If you feel like you’ve been losing for too long now, most likely it is the wrong game you are playing. There is a chance for you to reconsider all that is involved: the rules, the playing field, the competitors, even what winning eventually means. But you can do that only if you start by understanding who you are, what makes you stand out and what you want.

Different is better than better. If you put yourself in the small pond, how you think of yourself goes up. Most of us though live in a huge pond, and the feeling we get is we will never be good enough. Give yourself a game that you can win!

Neil Pasricha

Open your story to imperfection

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What happens when you fail the story you have so patiently and consistently crafted?

We all have ups and downs, yet some downs have the power to make us question the image of ourselves we have built. Perhaps we think of us as calm and patient, then we act irrationally and hastily. Perhaps we think of us as bold and innovative, then suddenly we are cautious and scared. Perhaps we think of us as caring and supporting, then we catch ourselves in a bitter and malicious mindset.

The beauty of stories, though, is that they are open enough to accept and welcome new behaviours without bending.

We still are calm and patient, but something unusual happened that made us act in an irrational and hasty way.

We still are bold and innovative, but with that new piece of information we felt it was worth it to be cautious and even scared.

We still are caring and supporting, but that person hurt us deeply and now we are in a bitter and malicious mindset.

If we accept this, it’s going to be easy to get back on track.

If we don’t, the thing we were not expecting will become what we expect of us next.

Ourselves first

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Lifting others, empowering them, making them feel listened and appreciated, ensuring they can do their best with their skills and motivating them enough to go find learnings in their failures.

All of this is possible only if we allow it to happen to ourselves first.

“I am shit and you are great” is a narrative that does not serve any of the above purposes.