Tag: failure

Easing

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Sometimes we get annoyed at people and situations merely because they are not where they want them to be.

We might have spotted potential in someone, or we might just have grown sensitive to a behaviour that repeats over time.

We might have envisioned a better world, or we might just have had enough of a culture where we feel we don’t fit.

Easing into what is will give us and the others the opportunity to change, to grow closer, to eventually meet in a place where we are better and they are better.

That’s true improvement.

Every day

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Motivation, inspiration, and creativity are resistance in disguise.

If you wait to be motivated to start going, you won’t get far.

If you wait for inspiration to struck before doing meaningful work, you’ll soon be out of a job.

If creativity is what you seek when sitting down to write, the page will stay empty most of the time.

There is nothing sudden in people’s achievements, no overnight success will surprise you.

Go do what you are supposed to. Every day.

Little future

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Remember to balance your ability to get things your way with the fact that, on the other side, there is somebody who has just lost the trust in the relationship and their capacity.

You can push, you can order, you can yell, you can bypass, you can threaten, you can boss around. And you’ll eventually make it happen exactly how you wanted it to be.

There’s little future after that though.

Out of curiosity

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To stop you from checking emails when you are not supposed to, think about the following.

Are you checking because you can take a meaningful action or out of curiosity?

If knowing the content of a mail now changes the way you act (compared to what you’d do if you would check at the appropriate time), that is a meaningful action.

In all honesty, there are very few cases where this is true.

Our opinion is not stronger if we share it now or tomorrow. Hearing some feedback is not going to make us change now, and probably it won’t tomorrow. Checking now if that email we have been waiting for has finally arrived is not going to give us a headstart on tomorrow’s work.

More often, it’s curiosity that drives us. It’s the dopamine hit we get from knowing something, even though it does not affect our possibility to do something about it. It’s like scrolling your social media timeline out of boredom.

We can train at keeping that impulse under control.

The best bargain

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Free stuff is not easy to give away online, and that’s true for second hand clothes as it is true for learning programs.

It’s probably because the buyer does not perceive any value. It’s easy enough to raise one’s hand and say “I am in”. But as soon as life gets in the way, something that is free is just not worth any hassle.

If you have something you need to get rid of, or an idea you are proud of and want to spread, that’s something to take into account.

For as counterintuitive as it might sound, free is not always the best bargain.