There’s too much talk about improvement and growth and too little talk about acceptance and contentment.
Wanting to be better, wanting to have more, wanting to learn and move forward, these are all very commendable aspirations. But when they get applied to every situation and when we look at them in the shortest possible amount of time, they are just going to eat us.
Life is not that long, and we need to find a way to be OK with what we have, with who we are.
One of the things that’s more infuriating is acting in a way that does not fit the image we have of ourselves.
Raising the voice when we like to think we are calm and understanding.
Cheating at a game when we like to think we are fair and honest.
Gossiping to fit in when we like to think we are open and trustworthy.
And the funny thing is that it’s true whether we have a clear idea of who we want to be or not.
But if we don’t know what we want to be, we’ll never figure out what infuriates us, nor we will ever do anything to correct that.
You can set rules for the best case scenario or you can set rules for the worst case scenario.
When you use the best case scenario as a basis, you trust that things will progress well, that people are trustworthy, that nothing terrible or horrible will happen, that “bad” is a situation that can still be managed without much pain.
When you use the worst case scenario as a basis, you look at what will go wrong, at those who will betray you or not keep their part of the deal, at principles that need to be protected, at a “good” situation that is very difficult to digest.
Busy is the bane.
And sometimes, you are busy. So much so that being busy becomes a description of your permanent self, more than a temporary state.
To get out of it, make a list of the things that are making you busy. And ask yourself two questions.
Once you unlock that conversation with yourself, you are ready to start setting boundaries and delegating.
If your dream is something you are 100% sure you will be achieving, something you are comfortable with, something you have already done before, that’s not a dream.
If your project is something that no one else has ever achieved, something that is not well defined, something that will take years to complete, that’s not a project.
Using the right definitions and assumptions for the right thing will bring you close to success.
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