Are you into it only when everything is great, or even when it’s difficult?
Do you show up for work only on your best days, or even when you don’t feel like it?
Are you happy to take your turn in the company meeting only when the results are great, or even when you’ve had a bad period?
Do you love your partner only when they make you coffee in the morning, or even when they are just too busy to even drink the coffee?
Are you a leader only when the team is great, or even when the team needs guidance and motivation?
The point is, it’s easy when it’s easy. It’s when the going gets tough that the tough get going.
The only way to get people to share their ideas, their thoughts, their feelings, their problems, their feedback, is for you to shut up.
If you keep talking, they will stop thinking. If you interrupt them, they will give up trying. If you go first – particularly if you are in a position of power – they will just repeat what you said.
To get people to open up you have to willing to give them space and just listen.
No matter how fantastic an idea is, how relevant it is, how sure you are you are never going to forget it and you will keep improving on it.
In the busyness of the day, the idea will most likely fly away.
If you ever want to achieve something meaningful (for you), take the habit of writing things down.
It makes a difference.
You don’t always have an answer, you don’t always know what to do, you don’t always understand what is happening.
The trick is not to try to fake it. Not to try to escape it.
If you can just stay with the feeling for a while, what you need will come.
Confidence is about being at ease with uncertainty, without wanting to get rid of it at all costs.
Help people by sharing what others think, and they will find a way to interpret that and apply it to their lives.
Help people by playing back what they think, and they will find a way to figure out themselves and be consistent in their lives.
On the other hand, help people by telling them what others mean or what to do, and they will just ignore, even when you approach them with the best of intentions.