Tag: empathy

Let the right one in

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What you want in life is to find those who see where you are going, your potential, your true self.

Many see where you have been, what you did wrong, where you failed, your shortcomings, your missteps, your fragility. You are the first one to see all of that and make it the focus of everything you do.

Someone who can go beyond that and still cheer for you is precious.

For a few seconds Oskar saw through Eli’s eyes. And what he saw was…himself. Only much better, more handsome, stronger than what he thought of himself. Seen with love.

John Lindqvist, Let The Right One In

No matter what you do

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The moment you can accept that others think differently, that things happen no matter what you want or what you do, that nobody out there sees you as someone intrinsically deserving praise or criticism, that’s the moment when you can find peace of mind and set to achieve your goals.

The longer you can sustain that acceptance, the better of you will be.

Completely off

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The way people will think of you does not depend on how productive you are, on your job title, on your responsibilities, on how much money you make, on the number of meetings you attend, on how often you share your opinion.

The way people will think of you does depend on how you make them feel when you are around.

How supportive you are.

How helpful you are.

How kind you are.

How listening you are.

How empowering you are.

Our set of values is often completely off the mark.

Embrace

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If you can’t live with pain. If you can’t live with boredom. If you can’t live with failure and disappointment. If you can’t live with repetition and rejection.

Then you will not be ready to embrace the opposite.

You will not be ready to embrace life at all.

Dreams

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When a dream fades, there are two types of pain to deal with.

One comes from the loss of the dream itself.

One comes from the lack of space – energy, time, emotions, thoughts – needed for another dream to come replace the first one.

I find the second one more difficult to figure out and deal with.