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Blow thoughts away

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A thought is just a thought.

It comes and goes. It might come back, and certainly it will go away once more.

The challenge is that often we take that thought and build our reality around it. That person is mean to mean. Nobody wants me. I am not good enough. And by doing that, we twist our reality to match the thought. The thought will stay and we become conditioned by it.

Blow thoughts away, particularly the negative, devious, perverse, mean ones. They are just thoughts, until you build them into something bigger.

Not up to the task

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So many of us do not feel up to the task. It’s a feeling that makes us shy away from achieving more, that makes us hide and retreat, that eventually feeds into a demotivating spiral from which it is difficult to escape.

But what is the task?

When we say we do not feel up to the task, we often refer to something ideal, some perfect outcome that we never really define. We imagine ourselves being in a position where we have everything under control, where we know everything, and where we can answer every question without fault and self-doubt.

The task is not that. Nobody in their sane mind would ask you to be up to that task.

The task is showing up and figuring it out as you go. Living and dealing with that kind of uncertainty and with that level of ignorance, while still being kind to others and willing to bring them along the way with you. Perhaps learning something from them and teaching them something.

It’s not an easy task, but it can be concrete and it is achievable.

So, if you feel like you are not up to the task, start by asking yourself what the task is. You might be relieved from a big stress.

Comfort

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You know what you have to do, and there are three reasons why you are not doing it.

  1. You’ve never done it before
  2. You are not motivated
  3. You don’t have the skills

Some of that might be real, some of that might just be tricks your mind plays to keep you within your comfort zone, free from risks and safe.

But you know what you have to do.

So, understand what is keeping you from doing it and work around it.

Flat

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A flat organization is an opportunity for employees to speak freely, to share their opinion, to make an impact.

A flat organization is not an excuse for managers to make jokes about employees, say whatever comes to their mind, pretend they are not in charge.

It’s a thin distinction, one that is good to remember often.

Bold with decisions

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You have made a decision, now be bold when sharing it.

Don’t look for excuses – as in we would not do it, but ..

Don’t give up the ownership – as in I did not agree, but ..

Don’t delay further – as in let’s try first, then ..

Don’t beat around the bush – as in let me tell you of all the reasons why ..

Don’t be smug about it – as in you’ll see the results this will bring ..

You have a decision, not many do that, go for it. Sure, you can change your mind later, consider new information, eventually go in a different direction. But for the time you are in the decision you have made, be bold and strong.

It’s a good part of making the decision a success.