We’d like to control others. What they think of us, what they do in the projects we lead, what they care about when it’s time to buy, how they feel when we are together.
We’d like to control others, situations, circumstances, luck, misfortune, talent, success.
We’d like to control all of that and all we can control is our little self.
Better become good at that at least.
If you want to meet somebody, take the first step.
If you would benefit from being more networked, take the first step.
If you think you should develop some skills, take the first step.
If you seek a reference for the next job application, take the first step.
If you’ve met an interesting person you want to stay in touch with, take the first step.
If you need a change in your life, take the first step.
If you crave a chat with a friend, take the first step.
Things will not just happen because you go through your day, and the first step is always the most difficult to take. Nobody else will take it for you.
When something ends, all you want to hear is that you will be missed.
That it was great, that it’s a pity, that it’s not your fault, that memories are valuable, and that something better probably awaits you in the future.
It’s the feeling that what you did was not enough, combined with the feeling that you still have a lot to do, that will bring you down.
If you’re ending something, keep this in mind.
If you are constantly in a situation where you know and your colleague does not.
Where you have the answers and your colleague does not.
Where your job is better than the job of your colleague.
Where your opinion matters more than the opinion of your colleague.
Where you understand while your colleague doesn’t really get it.
Where you have all the expertise while your colleague really just is a junior.
Where you make decisions while your colleague waits for your decisions to be made.
How can you really expect to build a relationship with them?
Life is a combination of different parts.
Yourself. The people you get to build ties with. Your family. The work you do. Your beliefs and principles. Your well-being. The job you do to benefit your community. The partners you choose.
And when something bad happens in one part of our life – we get fired, a relationship ends, we are stuck in our development, etc. – it is very common to magnify that until it becomes the totality and the absolute reality of our entire existence.
To put things back in perspective, we might need help. And perspective is always a dear friend.
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