Before and after

What you are today is nothing compared to what you will be tomorrow.

And what you are today is massively more compared to what you were yesterday.

Life is continuous progress. Many look for success in what lies ahead – I will have more – while at the same time regretting the lack of what once was – I was better off. The point is to completely revert the perspective, and start measuring success looking at the path so far while aspiring to what comes next.

It’s always the journey, not the destination.

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.

Epicurus

When the going gets though

Are you into it only when everything is great, or even when it’s difficult?

Do you show up for work only on your best days, or even when you don’t feel like it?

Are you happy to take your turn in the company meeting only when the results are great, or even when you’ve had a bad period?

Do you love your partner only when they make you coffee in the morning, or even when they are just too busy to even drink the coffee?

Are you a leader only when the team is great, or even when the team needs guidance and motivation?

The point is, it’s easy when it’s easy. It’s when the going gets tough that the tough get going.

Opening up

The only way to get people to share their ideas, their thoughts, their feelings, their problems, their feedback, is for you to shut up.

If you keep talking, they will stop thinking. If you interrupt them, they will give up trying. If you go first – particularly if you are in a position of power – they will just repeat what you said.

To get people to open up you have to willing to give them space and just listen.

Potential

Every person is a possibility. Every person is many possibilities.

There are different paths you can take, different journeys you can loose yourself into, different decisions to make. The person you are today is probably not the person you will be tomorrow and certainly only one of the many different persons you could have become.

In this wealth of options, you can end up moving from one to the next. Or you can make an intentional choice, stick with it, and always keep in mind a couple of principles: this is what’s better for me and this is what’s better for the people I care about.