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Damages

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Scoring a point, winning an argument, having it your way.

They might all seem like great things, except the damages they make are often greater than the satisfaction they bring.

If you find this difficult to grasp, think back at the last time you failed to score a point, you lost an argument, you did not have it your way.

What you felt back then is the same your counterpart is feeling today. And you know for a fact, it is not a feeling that it is easy to shake off, not a sentiment on which it is possible to build a strong relationship.

And so I guess the question would be: is it worth it?

Personal

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When you start thinking that somebody has done something to hurt you, offend you or cut you off, do two things.

Take a break.

Reach out and have a conversation.

Share it

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If you have knowledge, share it.

If you have an idea, share it.

If you have a project, share it.

If you learned something, share it.

If you plan something, share it.

If you have a purpose, share it.

If you have experience, share it.

It is the best way to broaden your perspective and actually get things done.

What might be

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If you only look at what was and what is to shape what might be, things are going to be extremely difficult.

At any point in time, the market is cluttered. It is challenging to compete with incumbents, new players, alternatives, and outsiders. If you want to excel, it is going to be an uphill battle, on many fronts, and more often than we care to admit we do not have a good enough product or service to win this.

If we take a look at the future from any point in time, instead, a wealth of possibilities open up. Among those is the market that is not cluttered now, but will be soon enough.

That is where you want to be.

Drain

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A meeting is a drain of time, focus and flow. And it compounds the more people are involved.

So, if you are going to have a meeting, make it worth it. Have an agenda, a clear one, even if it is just a sync. Stay on topic. Never go around the (virtual) table to fish for topics, but by all means poke those who speak less and make sure they get a chance to express their opinion. Get to action points in proper time, write them down, and circulate them after the meeting is done. If you have called the meeting, or are in a leadership potion, do a lot of listening and very little talking. And finish earlier.

If you are finding yourself breaking these basics more than once for a particular meeting, the people invited to the meeting are better off if the meeting is removed from their calendars.

They certainly have something better to do.

P.S.: I wrote about meetings a while back also. The rules set out there are still valid for the most part.